When talking to a group of woman who has been through domestic violence. I ask them:
When did they know that they was moving forward towards the road of freedom
here is two responds
One Lady by the name of Linda said when she started dating if a man would raise his arm quickly she would jump out of her seat. She said she knew then that it was not time for her to get into another relationship nor date.
Even the sound of a door slamming, a balloon busting a car door slamming would send them into anxiety Linda said she had to get back to the sounds in the environment she was in and it took a while for her to do that.
Some woman who are trying to move towards the road of freedom from domestic violence said it takes some years some had physiological disorders and some kept themselves in a HOLD IT environment. Kathy said she also felt all the slamming and banging which put her in fear for a while and she wanted to get on the path to freedom from domestic violence. She said she hid her heart and became independent and the brick wall she built around herself was hard for a man to break. After more than a year when she met her husband she said he would say it was hard for him to love her. The fears she had that he would hurt her or mistreat her. He said just reaching out to comfort her she would shy away when talking to Kathy's husband Anthony he said "it was like dating and your parents would sit between you" He also said "she didn't look into his eyes and she pulled back each time he would try to kiss her, he then knew someone had abuse her and he had extra work to do." I love this couple today they are 20 years married.